Dating, Eleven Times Two

Bore off with your Valentine’s Day bollocks

Valentine’s Day: noun

1. February 14, observed in honour of St. Valentine as a day for the exchange of valentines and other tokens of affection.

Alternative Definition: A day that divides the nation into 3 camps…

1. The loved-up couples who use the day to celebrate their love for one another
2. The non-plussed
3. The bitter singles

I have fallen into Camp 1 on a few occasions, Camp 3 on far more, and I am now nicely settled in Camp 2 – with a solid appreciation for those in Camp 1. The people in Camp 3 need to have a word with themselves in all fairness.

Following on from yesterday’s post about dropping the façade, I’ll let you in on a little secret – I love Valentine’s Day. I love it when I am in a relationship, and I love it when I am not. Many a time the words “I don’t really do Valentine’s Day” have fallen out of my lying mouth in a bid to look ‘cool’ or ‘non-plussed’, and it’s utter tripe. Getting a card or being spoilt or just making that little extra effort to show that you love someone is great. Yes, arguably you should be showing the person you are with that you love them every day – but why on earth would we complain about having a day of the year – just one, where literally THE WHOLE WORLD is thinking about love? The fact that people are bitter and twisted about people being in love just does not compute with me, and it says an awful lot about the people trapping off about it.

This morning I actually had someone reference HITLER in response to my saying “Happy Valentine’s Day”. Hitler. Right, ok then – sorry for even putting it out into the ether, I’ll be sure to choose more wisely who I bestow my good wishes on next time!

There is so much hate in the world already, and the fact that we can direct hate towards a day SPECIFICALLY designated to celebrate love surely tells us all about humanity today? We would rather moan and complain and spit bile. We would rather blame commercialism for ‘trying to get more money out of us for no reason’. We would rather say that we don’t celebrate a day dedicated to love – TO OUR LOVED ONES, and for what? To try and conform? To try and save face? To save some money? What?
I have a theory – everyone wants to be loved. Every single one of us would love to have someone today that has done something a little special to give us that warm fuzzy feeling inside – but not everyone has that. The only people who moan about Valentine’s Day are those that are unhappy alone. There, I’ve said it.

If you are one of these people – I don’t blame you, truly I don’t and there is zero judgement. I’ve been there, and I can tell you that once you are TRULY happy with who you are, and being on your own – a feed full of happy couples makes you smile rather than balk. So, today – instead of posting that you love an inanimate object, making a joke about getting some cats or having a rant about the commercialism of it all, have a go at liking those posts about people who love one another. Double-Tap for every kiss, smiling duo, bunch of flowers and box of chocolates. Be happy for them, and you never know – you might just get that warm fuzzy feeling regardless.

Happy Valentine’s Day x

(Oscar The Grouch Image Credit: http://www.ketv.com/article/happy-birthday-oscar-sesame-streets-favorite-grouch-is-older-than-you-think/9960837)